Everything I Know About Boundaries, I Learned from My Cat
Let me start by saying this: my cat has never read a self-help book, and yet she sets better boundaries than anyone I know. In fact, if she were human, she’d be a life coach with a thriving side hustle and a strong “no” game.
Meanwhile, I’m over here trying to explain to a coworker why I can’t answer emails during dinner… while also answering emails during dinner.
So, in the spirit of self-improvement (and fur-covered wisdom), here’s what I’ve learned about boundaries—from a cat who neither asks for permission nor suffers fools.
1. Personal space is sacred.
My cat does not tolerate unwanted snuggles, unsolicited touches, or overextended eye contact. She will accept affection—only when she initiates it. And if you ignore the subtle cues? You’ll get the tail flick of doom.
Lesson: You’re allowed to want space. You’re allowed to protect your peace. You’re even allowed to leave a room dramatically if the energy is off.
2. Rest is productive.
My cat takes at least four naps a day. Not one of them is guilt-ridden. She will flop into a patch of sun like it’s her full-time job and sigh like she just closed three deals and met her quarterly goals.
Lesson: Rest is not a reward for burnout. It’s a requirement for not losing your mind.
3. Say no without a PowerPoint presentation.
Cats are expert boundary enforcers. My cat says no with a look, a hiss, or by knocking something off the counter in protest. She doesn’t explain herself. She doesn’t over-apologize.
Lesson: “No” is a full sentence. Bonus points if you can deliver it while maintaining eye contact and walking away slowly.
4. Don’t go where you’re not appreciated.
My cat has ghosted entire rooms full of people who weren’t giving her the attention she felt she deserved. And she doesn’t come back. She goes where the treats are. She stays where the vibes are immaculate.
Lesson: You are not obligated to stay anywhere your energy isn’t respected. Including group chats.
5. Be mysterious on purpose.
One minute my cat is asleep in a laundry basket. The next, she’s perched on a windowsill like a Victorian ghost waiting for her sailor. She doesn’t explain her choices. And we don’t ask.
Lesson: You don’t need to justify your boundaries—or your weird little rituals.
Final Thoughts
So here’s to the cats: the purr-fect boundary setters, the champions of alone time, the queens (and kings) of knowing exactly what they want and walking away from what they don’t.
May we all be just a little more like them… and maybe invest in a good lint roller. 🐾
💬 What About You?
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